Thoughtful Thursday & Other People's Choices

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It can be difficult to watch other people choose differently than we want them to.

Especially if it is someone we love and care about.

Often times, we make it mean something about us.

That we have done something wrong.

Or, something is wrong with us.

We argue with reality--believing things should be different than they are.

It feels useful.

However, when we believe that somehow our resistance to them will motivate them to change, we prevent ourselves from truly loving that person.

But it doesn't have to be an either or here.

We can still love that person while allowing them to travel on their own path.

We don't need to control or change others in order to love them.

Wanting something better for them and loving them at the same time is totally available to us. 

Allowing for both to be true will serve us so much better.

It is definitely worth practicing.

Give it a try!

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