Did your parents ever tell you that the world didn't revolve around you? Have you said that to your own children? I have. We all know what I mean when I say that. All things in this world don't revolve around our preferences. Things don't always go our way. Sometimes we have to share or take turns. Other people have different opinions than us. But what I am going to talk about here is different. I really don't believe that most people think that the world revolves around them. But, as humans we are really good at believing that we are the reference point. This concept is explained really well by Kara Loewentheil. As we learn more about thought work, we come to understand that just because we are having a thought about something doesn't make it true. We begin to question and get curious about our thinking. This is so important to managing our minds. However, Kara teaches that we often don't realize or see that "we are taking our own experience of the wor
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