Thoughtful Thursday & All or Nothing

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I have been noticing all or nothing thinking in myself and others.

It includes absolutes or extremes and distorts our thinking.

Your life is either perfect or a disaster.

You are either a success or an absolute failure. 

You are a wonderful mother or a terrible one.

When perfection is the expectation you have set for yourself, then it doesn’t happen, you believe failure is the only alternative.

You grade yourself with either an “A” or an “F” on things like

Diet & exercise.

Parenting.

Work.

Money.

Relationships.

You use words like…

Always.

Never.

Ever.

This type of thinking prevents you from gaining perspective or finding solutions.

It doesn’t allow for anything in the middle.

It doesn’t allow for growth.

We are all human beings and we have it all together half of the time.

AND

We are a mess half of the time.

Embracing the reality of both, opens us up to compassion for ourselves and others.

Give it a try!



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