Thoughtful Thursday

It can be difficult to watch other people choose differently than we want them to. Especially if it is someone we love and care about. Often times, we make it mean something about us. That we have done something wrong. Or, something is wrong with us. We argue with reality--believing things should be different than they are. It feels useful. However, when we believe that somehow our resistance to them will motivate them to change, we prevent ourselves from truly loving that person. But it doesn't have to be an either or here. We can still love that person while allowing them to travel on their own path. We don't need to control or change others in order to love them. Wanting something better for them and loving them at the same time is totally available to us.  Allowing for both to be true will serve us so much better. It is definitely worth practicing. Give it a try!

Do you find yourself facing obstacles between you and your goal? Believing that they are standing in the way of you reaching your dream result. I want to tell you something. The obstacles aren't the problem at all. They can actually be the best way for you to learn how to be more intentional in your life and in reaching your goal. These obstacles teach your brain how to think and plan ahead of time. With purpose. Developing this skill is a game changer. It allows you to face these obstacles head on with a plan instead of with a default reaction like giving up, justification, or buffering in ways that don't serve you. Here are 3 steps to help you as you work towards your dream goal. First, list everything that you can do to make this dream come true.  Include the things you need to learn, things you need to complete, and the daily activities you will need to commit to do. Second, list every reason why this won't work.  Write down every obstacle that you believe is standing i...

  Do you find yourself not being able to move forward in the goal that you have set for yourself this year? Or are you taking two steps toward your goal and then 3 steps back? Are you feeling like you will never be able to form your new habit or achieve your weight loss goal? I used to believe this myself. I would get discouraged and think that I was doing it all wrong. That I would never get there and that something was wrong with me and that I might as well give up. I see it in the people I coach too. The idea of all or nothing. Having to do it perfectly or else it isn't worth doing. But what if I told you that this isn't true? What if the goal is not the goal? What if the failures and falls are not a problem at all but part of the process? Think of what you could create in your life if you truly believed that it is all part of: The process of becoming more of who you want to be. The process of connecting with yourself and others. The process of reaching for your dreams. The ...

What do you say to yourself when you look in the mirror? Do you like what you see? Do you wish your body was different in some way? Many of us have gone throughout our lives telling ourselves stories. Stories about our bodies. How they should be different. Listing out what is wrong with them. We shame our ourselves and society has encouraged it. But our bodies are the most incredible gift! President Russell M. Nelson has said, “Your body, whatever its natural gifts, is a magnificent creation of God. … Ponder the magnificence of what you see when you look in the mirror … a child of God, created by Him in His image.” Our bodies are amazing. Here are just a few examples of some of the awesome things our bodies can do. Our brain produces enough electricity to light a small light bulb. Broken bones can heal. When we receive information through one of our senses, the signal travels from our nerves to our brain at over 100 miles per hour. Hearing is the ...